What is the Sound Relationship House?

The sound relationship house was created by Dr. John Gottman, focusing on what goes into creating a foundationally secure partnership. In doing so, he created the Sound Relationship House, with seven floors and two walls that describe what a foundationally secure relationship consists of.

How does the Sound Relationship House describe a relationship?

The first three levels of the house (Building love maps, Sharing Fondness and admiration, and Turning Towards) are essential to the couple’s friendship. These three levels build knowledge of each other’s world, building a culture of appreciation and fondness, and how a couple turns towards one another to meet their bids for connection.

The last four levels afterwards (The Positive Perspective, Managing Conflict, Making Life Dreams Come True, and creating a shared meaning) identify how the couple engages with one another to resolve issues and create meaning within their experiences.

Relationships are complex. The Sound relationship house helps identify the strengths within a relationship while also helping to identify where the relationship can use some improvements in a more concrete and tangible way.

How can I learn more about the Sound Relationship House and use it to improve my relationship?

The sound relationship house can be utilized to reflect on your relationship. If interested in learning more, the Gottman institute has a free newsletter called the Marriage Minute that contains one topic per email that can deepen your friendship or relationship. The Sound Relationship House is also used by clinicians who practice couples therapy to guide couples in further strengthening their relationship and allow them to reevaluate what their commitment to the relationship looks like. If you are interested in beginning couples therapy, you can submit an inquiry through our insurance verification form.

This page is part of the Roamers Therapy Glossary; a collection of mental-health related definitions that are written by our therapists.


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